Point: I am an introvert.
Counterpoint: I need to open up more and stop being so inhibited. I need to be entertaining and witty and the life of the party or people won’t want to spend time with me. Thoughtful conversations are boring. If I’m not a team player I’ll never survive in the workplace, and anyway it is arrogant to want to work alone. People will take it as snobbery. I really need to get out more and fit more activities into my schedule. I am anti-social and dull to spend so much time alone. Everyone should be an extrovert.
Actual Point: By choosing my words carefully, I protect myself and those around me; people trust me. By taking the time to think before I speak, I have more interesting or insightful things to say. Witty banter is fun but people also appreciate a bit of depth , and introverts and extroverts can complement each other this way and make the conversation more dynamic. Some people work more efficiently in a team, but some people work more efficiently by themselves, and good employers recognize this. Many great inventors, artists, and writers worked alone and yet contributed hugely to humanity. If I try to do too many things at once I’ll end up doing all of them poorly, but if I take the time I need to recharge I can excel at the things I do. Needing time alone doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy spending time with others-I love every minute spent with my family-and I am often using that time alone to think, reflect, create, and expand my knowledge of the universe. Introverts provide balance to extroverts; the world needs both.
Conclusion: I am an introvert, and that’s ok.